How to stretch your ass (anus) for safe anal sex?
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Like other muscles, your anal sphincter is only accustomed to stretching so far. If you want to loosen it up, it’s going to require some work.
By Dr.Love, Last medically reviewed by Dr.Deyn on April 24, 2021
How to Stretch Your Anus for Safe Anal Play
The best way to open your hole is to train it regularly. One great way to practice and stretch your hole is using dildos, Anal plug-ins and Inflatable Dildos. The best of it all is you will enjoy it and experience great pleasure! But how to do it safely and so that your hole develops quickly?
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WHAT'S THE POINT OF ANAL STRETCHING?
Pleasure for starters. Your anus is full of sensitive nerve endings that make anal play feel oh so good. And the fun isn’t reserved for folks who have a prostate.
Fun Fact: Almost 25% of gay men grequently get orgasms from anal sex alone.
Anal training can make anal penetration of any kind pleasurable. It can also help you work up to larger anal toys and other butt play, like gaping.
What’s gaping?
You’ve likely seen it in porn — the close up of a butthole open wide after being penetrated with a big butt plug or penis. That’s gaping, or hashtag HoleGoals.
A lot of younger guys I meet complain about pain while having anal sex...
It's understandable, I used to have a pretty hard time with this myself when I first started banging guys. For a long time I just thought that it was part of anal and I would just have to learn to like it or something, that it was an acquired taste I just wasn't acquiring fast enough for my liking. But, anal sex isn't like stout beer, black licorice, or stinky cheeses - anal sex is sex and should be enjoyed for what it is, not what you think it should be.
The simple fact of the matter is that, in the beginning, anal sex does tend to hurt a bit. However, there are ways to ease yourself through this troubling and, possibly, confusing part of anal sexual exploration. I'm talking, of course, about anal stretching!
Is it Safe?
Like any other sexual activity, it’s generally safe if you take the proper precautions.
The anus isn’t self-lubricating like a vagina, and the tissue is thinner and more sensitive than the rest of your skin. This makes it more prone to tearing and infection, including sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Taking it slow, using lots of lube, and practicing safer sex can help. If you’re pregnant, have hemorrhoids, or have any other condition that affects your anus or rectum, you may want to check with your doctor before giving anal training a go.
Is it permanent?
Nope. Your sphincter’s number one priority isn’t to accommodate a mammoth butt plug; it’s meant to contract to hold your poop in your rectum and flex to let it out when you’re ready. It’ll bounce back because that’s its job.
So you won’t get ‘loose’?
Nope — no matter how big you go.
Along with elasticity in your tissues that help them flex and contract, mental relaxation is a big part of anal training.
Anal penetration gets easier because you develop better control, not because you’ve got a big butthole.
How far can you go?
Pretty far.
The average rectum is roughly 12 centimeters (about 5 inches) long, but you’re better off listening to your body than focusing on that number. Take fisting, for example. It’s totally possible for your partner to work up to fisting you until they’re elbow deep if that’s something you’re into exploring. Going as deep as shoulder is also possible but it takes lots of time and efforts to practice.
DO - THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE ANAL STRETCHING
- Be sure to use the bathroom before you begin
- If you're a little poopoophobic, you might want to consider an anal douche 3-4 hours before you start.
- Stop without hesitation the moment you encounter any blood or experience strong pain. The point is to push yourself to the point of slight discomfort, not to tear your ass up. If it hurts you need to stop. If it is just uncomfortable, you're doing it right!
- Start off with a smaller, smooth butt plug. Make sure it has a taper. Wouldn't want to lose it!
- Use a lot of lube. Seriously, you can't use enough lube! This is especially true for complete beginners.
- Use a lot of lube. No, that wasn't a mistake, I didn't double up on this one by accident. You seriously are going to need a lot of lube. Do yourself a favor and follow this advice. Don't get the cheap shit either! You'll be doing yourself a favor.
- Don't use anal numbing lube for anal training. It's important you be able to feel to know when to move on to a larger sized plug or if you've gone too far too fast. Again, pain is an important indicator.
DON'T - THINGS TO AVOID WHEN ANAL TRAINING
- Don't force it if it hurts.
- Don't get ahead of yourself. Be sure to exercise a little patience. There's no need to go thrusting about now, that's what you're working up to.
- Train every day. It's a good idea to let your body adjust and rest after a good stretch session. I found a good 2-3 days to be sufficient, but you know your own body better than anyone and will find what works for you. Just be sure to give it a rest from time to time to avoid any injury.
- Start with a plug larger than 4.5 inches in circumference. Remember, the idea is to start small and work up.
WHAT CAN YOU USE?
Fingers are a good place to start because you can begin with a pinky and work your way up to five fingers, or even an entire hand or fist. You can also use sex toys.
Dilator
Anal dilators, also called rectal dilators, are medical devices used to widen the rectum after anorectal surgery to help make passing stool easier.
Dilators — which you can find online — used for pleasure are similar, though the goal is slightly different, obvs.
Their shape is pretty basic — usually smooth and tubular. They’re usually sold in sets of five or more, each increasing roughly a quarter of an inch in size so that you can work your way up.
Plug
You’ve gotta love the butt plug and its efficient shape. They generally have narrow tips that gradually widen toward the middle then taper down again.
Their shape makes them easy to insert and helps to keep them comfortably contained in your anus even in the throes of ecstasy.
A flared base prevents them from getting sucked in, sparing you from being one of those Untold Stories of the ER cases that goes viral.
They come in all sorts of lengths and widths, ranging from small (like this one) for anal training amateurs to some pretty intimating monster-sized plugs (like this one) for seasoned pros.
You can also buy butt plug trainer kits online, like this one.
Lifelike dildo
If you like cock and want a sex toy that looks more like the real thing, then dildos are the way to go. They come in just about every length and girth so you can work your way up as you please.
Fantasy dildo
Like a little whimsy with your anal workout? Fantasy dildos are shaped like pretty much everything you wouldn’t normally think of putting up your butt, like dragons, aliens, unicorns, and even a magical hammer (like this one) inspired by the God of Thunder.
WHAT SIZE TO START WITH?
Don’t try to be a hero and start big because you can — quite literally — tear yourself a new one.
If this is your first foray into anal play and stretching, starting small is a must even if you think you can handle more. If we’re talking in fingers, start with a pinky. In toys, something between 0.25 inches to 0.5 inches in diameter is a good place to start.
An anal training kit like this one by VuVatech is perfect for beginners.
OTHER TIPS FOR SELECTION
Size matters, but here are some other things to consider when choosing toys to stretch your anus.
Material
First, you want to be sure to choose a material that’s body-safe. Look for toys that are phthalate and BPA-free.
Silicone, stainless steel, and borosilicate glass — or Pyrex — are great because they’re nonporous and easy to care for.
Silicone has more give, which might be better for a newbie.
Weight
Unless you’ve got carpal tunnel, you don’t need to worry about weight if you’re choosing dilators or dildos.
Butt plugs are another story since they’re meant to remain inside you. You want enough weight for the plug to stay put and not shoot from your butt with a sneeze, but it also needs to be comfortable.
Vibrations and other variations
To say you have a lot of options would be an understatement. There are dildos and other anal toys out there with bells and whistles your bum can’t even imagine.
Vibrating, heating, and curved for prostate stimulation are just a few.
You probably don’t need any of these things to stretch your anus, but they sure make a fun reward for all that hard training.
HOW OFTEN SHOULD YOU TRAIN?
It comes down to your comfort level, but aim to train once or twice a day, at least 5 days a week, for 5 to 10 minutes at a time.
Stick with it for 1 to 2 weeks before moving to the next size up. If you feel no resistance or discomfort when inserting, then congrats — you’re ready to size up!
WHAT POSITIONS WORK BEST FOR THIS?
If you’re doing it yourself, you’ll want to lie on your side and use your dominant hand, which is the one you write with.
- Lie on side with your knees bent so you’re comfortable.
- Reach your hand around to your anus to insert your finger or toy.
If you’re with a partner, you have a couple of positions to choose from. You can:
- Lie facedown.
- Have your partner sit or kneel next to you.
- Get on all fours.
- Have your partner kneel behind you
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HOW TO PREPARE YOURSELF?
Here are a few things to do to get ready for an anal training sesh.
Try to have a bowel movement
It’s no secret that poop comes out of the anus. Most fecal matter sits higher up in your rectum, but anal play can bring on the urge to poop. Pooping before play will allow you to go deeper and help you focus on the task at hand.
If you’re still pretty shallow, consider a douche
If there’s too much poop in your rectum, shallow penetration will probably be all you can muster. Using a rectal douche to clean out poop in the lower rectum can help. They’re easy to use and you can buy one online for just a few bucks.
If you’re getting deeper, consider an enema
If you’re planning to go deeper than 3 or 4 inches, you might want to consider an enema to flush any remaining poop from your rectum. An enema injects liquid deeper into the rectum to completely clear it out. You can buy enema kits online or in drugstores.
Enemas are safe as long as you only use them occasionally and as directed on the packaging. Be sure to use lube on the tip before insertion.
Open your mind and relax yo’self
You need your mind and muscles to be as relaxed as possible to keep your hole from clenching. Try a hot bath, a massage, or some foreplay to help you get your stretch on.
Be generous with the lube
Apply a liberal amount of lube to your finger or toy, as well as around your anal opening. By liberal I mean basting yourself up like you would a turkey on Thanksgiving. Not using enough can cause pain and tearing.
Silicone lube, which you can find online, is awesome for anal play because of its thicker consistency and lasting power.
If you’re using a silicone toy, however, you’ll need to use a water-based lube instead because silicone breaks down silicone.
Oil-based lubes generally aren’t recommended because they break down latex, and that’s a major no-no if you’re using condoms or latex gloves on your fingers or toys.
A natural lube, like this one from Passion Lubes, is a good choice for your delicate derriere.
SAY NO TO NUMBING AGENTS
Using a numbing agent increases your chances of going too far too fast and causing potentially serious damage.
Your discomfort will help you gauge when it’s time to stop or move up to the next size.
Plus, the point of anal training is to get your butt accustomed to the sensation of being penetrated.
TECHNIQUE - GETTING ANAL TRAINING DONE RIGHT (INSERTION & PLAY)
Now that we have the basic do's and don'ts out of the way, let's move on to technique...
STEP 1 - GETTING WARMED UP AND READY
First, you are going to want to find a position that's right for you. Then, relax and begin with your fingers. Don't just go jammin' them in there willy-nilly. This part of the exercise is to get you warmed up. You don't sprint a quarter mile to get warmed up for a marathon, the same idea applies here.
Just lube up your fingers and work them around your hole a little bit while trying to relax your anus. Using circular motions feel it out and massage it a bit. When you think you're ready, start to slowly insert them into your anus. Keep up that slight circular movement.
Once you are comfortable with the presence of one or more of your fingers in there, try to give a little stretch with your fingers and see how it feels. If you are comfortable with this, move on to step two.
STEP 2 - TRAINING WITH ANAL PLUGS
Now, lube up your smallest sized plug and refresh the lube in your hole. Once you’re relaxed and greased up, it’s time to get in there.
How do you insert?
Start to slowly insert the plug until it becomes uncomfortable. Remember, you want it to be uncomfortable, not hurt!
Slow and steady wins the butt play race. Get ready for insertion by lightly pressing your toy against your hole with minimal pressure.
When you’re ready:
- Take a deep breath and increase the pressure, slowly pushing your finger or toy inside.
- Try to insert the toy an inch or so over the course of about 3 or 4 minutes.
- If met with some resistance — which is totally normal — gently remove it, apply lube again, and try again. Once you reach the point of discomfort, leave it there for a few seconds and retract it.
- Then, slide'er back in there. Try to go a little further this time. If you can only reach the same point as before, no worries. Just keep repeating this process until you've managed to take the whole of your smallest sized plug.
- Once inside, use a gentle circular or thrusting motion.
- Be sure to reapply lube every time you take it out and start again.
STEP 3 - BECOMING A MASTER THROUGH PRACTICE
It get's pretty simple from here on out. You basically repeat the same process only with the next largest plug. Follow all of the same steps as the previous size. Remember, there's no need to rush. Did I mention you should use lots of lube?!
You'll want to keep this up until you reach master the largest plug you have. That's pretty much it! Just be sure you give yourself time to recover after each session and be sure to not attempt moving up to the next size plug to quickly, and you should be alright! You probably won't want to attempt more than one size plug per session when you first start out, but that's for you to decide.
What’s the difference between plugging and thrusting?
Thrusting is pushing and pulling your toy in and out over and over, while plugging involves literally plugging your anus with a butt plug and leaving it inside. Using a circular motion is helpful when it comes to stretching. Whether you add thrusting or plugging into the mix depends on what feels good for you.
Plugging frees up your hands for simultaneous fun, like caressing your erogenous zones, or allows you to train while your partner goes down on you.
What should you do if it hurts?
Minor discomfort while you get used to the sensation of being penetrated is to be expected. Adjusting the depth or motion, or even just taking a deep breath, should help.
If you’re feeling actual pain — like a severe, sharp, or throbbing pain — then slowly pull out. You can try again in a couple of days with a smaller toy or after being sufficiently relaxed. If the pain returns, it’s a good idea to see a doctor to find the cause.
What should you do if there’s blood?
A little bit of blood that resolves quickly — think light spotting — probably isn’t a big deal.
See a doctor if there’s a lot of blood, bleeding continues for more than a couple of minutes, or is accompanied by pain.
What should you do if there’s poop?
First, don’t freak out. Everyone has a butt, and everyone poops.
A little poop is to be expected. Wash your hands and toy thoroughly, lube up, and start again.
If you get a bad case of the runs or have an actual bowel movement, then stopping to properly clean yourself up and out is a good idea.
You can always try again once your bowels are empty.
AFTERCARE & CLEANUP
While we’re on the subject of cleaning up, here are some tips for after your stretch sesh.
- Sterilize your toy
Sex toys should always be washed after use to avoid transferring bacteria. Most can be washed with warm soap and water, but always check the information included with your toy for any special care instructions.
A quick shower and a hot bath
You’ve earned a nice, relaxing bath after all that hard work — just make sure you take a quick shower first.
This will allow you to wash off any fecal matter or bacteria that’s made its way inside your anus (aka the last thing you want to be soaking in).
Soaking in a warm bath afterward can help you unwind and release tension afterwards.
Add a cup of Epsom salt to help relieve any soreness.
HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU'RE READY TO SIZE UP?
Look at you being all ambitious!
The general rule here is to size up once you’re able to take a toy in without any discomfort or resistance.
By sizing up, we’re talking around a quarter of an inch at a time — not jumping from a pinky to a penis. Ouch!
WHAT CAN HAPPEN IF YOU DO IT INCORRECTLY?
A few things. Not to scare you, but here’s a rundown of what can happen if you’re not careful.
Fissure
An anal fissure is a tear in the lining of your anus or your anal canal. Sometimes, you can actually see a crack or tear.
You might also experience:
- rectal bleeding
- pain
- foul-smelling discharge
- constipation
Hemorrhoid
A hemorrhoid is a swollen vein in your anus and lower rectum. They can cause swelling around your anus, along with bleeding, pain, and itching.
Internal hemorrhoids, which develop inside the rectum, can make pooping painful and cause bleeding. Sometimes, an internal hemorrhoid can push through your anal opening, causing even more pain and irritation.
THE BOTTOM LINE
Anal training can help you master anal play and take it to another level. When done right, you can work your way up to easy and pleasurable anal sex, or take it even further with gaping or fisting, if that’s your bag.
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